2. Forget and forgive
Again, these are things in our hands and independent of the circumstances this is something that we can always do, thats why its like the 2nd commandment to attaining peace of mind.
What we need to understand is that peace of mind can only be attained from total independence, only when the ball is entirely in your court can you be in control of it. Forgetting and forgiving to appear good or because we have been taught to behave that way or some other similar reason is wrong on so many levels. Doing it because you want peace of mind is the only reason why it should be done.
Forgiving because it will pardon our sins or because its a virtue is as bad a reason for doing it as any. Because at the end of it you again will have the craving for something more (you expect something nice because you forgave someone/some bad deed) and your peace of mind is still not where it should be.
Some people might say that hurting some other person instead of forgiving him is also in their hands and that can give them peace of mind because they exacted revenge ... well its not ... because if that other person chooses not to be hurt ... you end up being dependent on him for your peace of mind.
Forgiving because I can is one of the best feelings one can experience, its the feeling of independence, the feeling of being in control and that essentially is the key to achieving peace of mind.
Again, these are things in our hands and independent of the circumstances this is something that we can always do, thats why its like the 2nd commandment to attaining peace of mind.
What we need to understand is that peace of mind can only be attained from total independence, only when the ball is entirely in your court can you be in control of it. Forgetting and forgiving to appear good or because we have been taught to behave that way or some other similar reason is wrong on so many levels. Doing it because you want peace of mind is the only reason why it should be done.
Forgiving because it will pardon our sins or because its a virtue is as bad a reason for doing it as any. Because at the end of it you again will have the craving for something more (you expect something nice because you forgave someone/some bad deed) and your peace of mind is still not where it should be.
Some people might say that hurting some other person instead of forgiving him is also in their hands and that can give them peace of mind because they exacted revenge ... well its not ... because if that other person chooses not to be hurt ... you end up being dependent on him for your peace of mind.
Forgiving because I can is one of the best feelings one can experience, its the feeling of independence, the feeling of being in control and that essentially is the key to achieving peace of mind.
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